I mean, if it’s really as drastic as you feel it is… then it could be leaning toward a mood disorder. Only a professional would be able to tell you for sure what’s going on.
With bipolar disorder (and other mood disorders) you have to remember that there’s a medical side to it. It is because of a chemical imbalance in the brain which means that in most cases medication is needed to help manage the disorder.
If you feel it’s interfering with your life at all- reach out for support.
You can check out my recovery resources page. Another good thing to do is ask your general doctor for some referrals or go on Psychology Today and find a therapist in your area. It’s best to look for someone who specializes in something like bipolar disorder (or borderline personality disorder) and you can also search by what insurance they take.
First thing you should do right now is talk to someone. Reach out for support. Let someone know you’re struggling. Let them know what you’re going through. Let them help you.
Honestly, the way I look at it… if you’re concerned about a mental illness or questioning the difference between moodiness and a mood disorder… it’s probably good to talk to a doctor or counselor about it and get their opinion.
I know it’s not gonna be what you wanna hear… but this could be seen as a good thing.
Sometimes it’s better to focus on yourself before getting into a relationship. Just work on getting back to a stable place and then you can talk to him about things.
Another thing to remember is that you need supportive people in your life. He’s either not very supportive when you need him or doesn’t have the kind of patience someone needs to have with you. And if that’s the case… then he’s probably someone you’re better off with. You’re gonna end up finding a guy who is supportive and who is patient that will make you wonder why you ever thought this current guy was so great.